Obsessive negativity, persistent perfection analysis and other stress behaviors that affect your family
It is common for people to suffer stress and anxiety, even in supportive family conditions. Recognizing behaviors that increase anxiety and stress is the first step in ridding yourself of this discomfort. There are three obsessive behaviors, and you may not indulge in all three, but any of them have the power to make your family life less happy than it should be. These stresses in your family life might have originally been able to be controlled or alleviated by indulging in hobbies or interests such as landscape photography but you might find that your life is overtaking you. So what are these behaviors?
Obsessed negativity is the first, and it is quite simple to self-diagnose. People with obsessed negativity tend to be generally negative about things that happen in their life. Sometimes it’s just one area, such as work, but it can pervade your entire life, from your family and friends, your personal image, places you go, situations you encounter, politics and more.
Obsessed negativity can be from the banal (“There is never anything good on TV when I want to watch”), through to the more deep-seated psychological and self-esteem-related thought patterns (“I can never do anything right”, or “People are out to get me”). Solid patterns of negativity like this often prevent you from seeing legitimate good things that happen every day all around you.
Obsessive perfectionism is the second challenge and can be a deep source of anxiety. When you engage in obsessive perfectionism, you are centred on trying to do everything “just right” to the point to where you’re driving yourself into an anxious state of being. You may find yourself making statements such as, “I have to do this right, or I’ll be a failure!” or “If I am not precise, people will be mad at me!” This behaviour might be totally under the threshold of your awareness, but it interferes greatly with your ability to enjoy things without feeling stress.
An obsessive analysis is the third one. You might be obsessed about minute details of processes and procedures, going over them again and again until you are sure you understand it in minuscule detail – often far more than is required. You may feel the need to repeatedly go over the finer details of the task, repeating the order in your head just to be sure you’ve got it right. You can’t relax if things go wrong!
An excess of analysis robs you of time to enjoy your life. You’re caught up in a loop and you need to break free by reassuring yourself that all is well and undertaking activities that take your mind off it. Understand that not doing the analysis will not compromise your life.
If you recognize any of these blocking behaviours in yourself, there are tactics you can use to address them and help free yourself of them without having to resort to a clinical consultant. First, ask a few trusted friends or relatives whether they think you are negative in general, or if they think you are difficult to be around.
Explain the three blocking behaviours and ask them to specifically address those as opposed to things that might not be relevant. The insight you will get from others’ assessment of you is invaluable and you’ll know precisely how others see you.
Secondly, keeping a diary of what you do and how it makes you feel can help identify the activities that cause blocking behaviours. Once you start to see patterns you can make changes to break those destructive activities down and replace them with positive activities.
Relieving stress can often be accomplished by exercise, such as shooting some hoops or exercising at home. These can also help play a major role in contributing to a healthy and happy family life.
If you want to stay fit and healthy you really need to be stretching regularly. Over the years a lot of health nuts have been incorporating physical activities like cardiovascular training and weightlifting into their fitness routines, almost making exercise the center of their lifestyle. These people are often in a hurry to improve their physique or level of physical fitness that they have forgotten the importance of flexibility training. This kind of training is probably one of the most underrated and undervalued component of conditioning and physical fitness.
Flexibility training increases the the body’s range of motion. With flexibility, a person’s athletic performance is enhanced, with the risk of acquiring injuries greatly reduced. Stretching also speeds up metabolism. These benefits are achieved by improving blood flow into the different internal organs and muscles. Flexibility training helps lengthen the muscle fibers, facilitate ease of movement, while improving muscle recovery and strength. Flexibility training may also reduce muscle soreness, lower back pain, improve coordination and posture, and ease stress and anxiety in one’s life. In addition to these health benefits, various medical studies suggest that regular stretching enables the body’s internal organs to function properly because of improved blood flow.
However, the benefits of flexibility can only be enjoyed if proper training is done. Individuals who fail to perform proper flexibility training may develop injuries and hamper their workout goals. People who want to engage in flexibility training should include the following:
Before stretching, individuals should remember to perform warm-up exercises. These exercises may loosen up the muscle, improve blood flow, and prepare them for flexibility training.
Do not bounce (ballistic stretching) when performing static stretches. Medical experts suggest that ballistic stretching may cause immediate and residual pain. In the long run, it may lead to serious muscle damage.
Try to hold for at least 15-30 seconds to achieve long term flexibility benefits.
Perform flexibility and cool down exercises after workout to return the muscles to their resting stage.
Stretch gradually. Stretch only to the point where mild muscle tension is felt. If there is pain, then you might be doing it wrong. Move into each pose gradually and exhale while doing it.
Warming up is a crucial part of a flexibility program. A good flexibility program works best if a good warm-up session of about five to ten minutes of brisk walking or jogging is done before it. This is done because stretching cold muscles may lead to pulled or torn muscles. Health experts believe that the possibility of getting injured may decrease if the tendons and muscles are more conditioned.
Warming-up exercises may also bring the following health benefits:
- Increase the heart and respiratory rate
- Boost the amount of nutrients and oxygen delivered to the muscles
- Prepare the body for a more strenuous workout
- Make it easier to burn more calories
- Extend one’s workout routine
A well-planned flexibility training program which includes warm-up exercises may improve fitness and overall health, regardless of age. Physical activities and workouts should not be done hastily. People who want to lose weight or improve their fitness level should remember that there are no shortcuts to physical fitness. Proper training may prevent injuries that may hamper one’s workout program. Individuals who want to engage in flexibility training should seek the approval of doctors and other health professionals. Some medical conditions may prevent certain individuals from performing flexibility poses and stretches.